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Divine Connections: The Need for Godly Friendships

We were made to connect deeply with Jesus and each other, to stir up each others’ hearts in the calling and destiny of God on our lives, yet so often we are far too busy to spend that quality time with God and one another. Those times are too few and far between. Heaven would agree:

“Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

I need this right now, and I know many others do as well. The Lord has given us Himself as our closest Companion, and He has also brought others into our lives that we know are connections divinely set into place by Him.

“As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)

Father God, help us to use our time, energy, and other resources wisely. Orchestrate our schedules so that the time and energy we have can be spent in the right way. Help us to use that time and energy to engage in deep, godly friendships with quality time spent with both You and those individuals You have divinely placed in our lives. We need each other, and we need You. In Jesus’ name.

“And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works,
not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some,
but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.”
(Hebrews 10:24-25)

We were not made so much to do, we were made to be and to connect deeply in intimacy with God and with others.

In all relationships, we must not go about things for the sake of our own benefit. Instead our aim is to be like Christ, seeking to be a help and encouragement rather than a hindrance or burden. We want to help bear one another’s burdens and spur each other on to live like Jesus (Galatians 6:2). As we sow the fruit of the Holy Spirit into our friendships, we will reap them also (Galatians 6:7-10).

Since we have such a need for deep, genuine friendship, we must prioritize these areas of our lives. As we sharpen one another in the Lord, we encourage each other to remain faithful and steadfast through good times and bad. We remind each other of who we are in Christ, and we help propel one another into our God-given destinies.

May we set our hearts to live out our friendships on earth as they will be in Heaven.

“…walk worthy of the calling with which you were called,
with all lowliness and gentleness,
with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,
endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
(Ephesians 4:1-3)

Further Reading Online
Being the Friend You’ve Always Wanted (Believe.com)

The Root of All Our Longing & Wanting

Chai latte in hand, I strolled through our local bookstore, browsing the titles and beauty of books, journals and stationary. I recalled the former days when I was drawn to the bookstore like a moth to a lighted lamp nearby. I would longingly look at the books, not realizing that the longing I felt would not be fully satisfied by just simply reading about God and His ways. Even when I found another good book, my yearning was not for knowledge, but for a deeper relationship with Jesus and to encounter His love, truth and beauty.

Words and pictures can help lead us and even stir up the flame of love in our hearts, but they cannot fully satisfy. It took me a while to realize that my desire to feel satisfied was what drew me to the bookstore. I love to write and to read, but I discovered that yearning for more of God was the only answer to my soul’s longing. Many of us have things in our lives that we turn to during those times when we feel a little more empty inside than usual. For me, browsing the books was one of those activities.

God does speak to us in many ways, such as through a beautiful sunset, art, words and even titles of books, but these things cannot replace pure fellowship with Him and the way this connection satisfies our hearts.

Even still, my spirit fluttered today when Jesus spoke to my heart as I browsed, reminding me of all He’s been teaching me. First and foremost, it is my Father God who I need and long for deeper communion with.

All of our longings point to Him. The ultimate root of every desire is our need for God and through close-knit moments spent with in His presence. If we will allow God a moment to shed light on this truth, we will find it always true. He uses the beauty of nature, relationships with others, the hobbies we enjoy, and much more; but ultimately, without Him, these things leave us still unsatisfied, for only He can satisfy us completely.

We must learn to cultivate an awareness of His presence with us in every moment and yet also set aside focused time to have conversation with Him and encounter Him in His Word. (Brother Lawrence, who wrote a short and very excellent book on the subject, called this “Practicing the Presence of God”, which is also the book’s title).

[A Note of Clarification: We must come to the Father through His Son, Jesus. This truth holds together all that I write: I am a Christian. I believe Jesus is the only way to the Father; Christ’s sacrifice, believing He is the Son of God and making Him Lord of our lives. Salvation is not on our terms, but His; nonetheless, He is no forceful tyrant, He is Love and He tells us that He will not go against our free choice, but we must choose Him.) For starters, see Romans 10:9-11, John 14:6, Matthew 22:37-39.]

Intimacy is an every day, every moment endeavor. Just as in other relationships, such as that of a husband and wife, it comes in grand moments of love and life shared in the big, and it comes in the tiny droplets of joy shared in a momentary glance or smile. It comes as we give love through a gesture of kindness and service to another, and also comes as we support one another in times of trial and hardship.

This too is how I think God longs for us to live–walking through life always connected to Him, and I long to live this out. To walk through each day with joy instead of stress, gratefulness instead of fear, and meekness instead of frustration… and above all, to be intimately connected to God in every moment of every day and night.

I want to be so aware of Father God that I am filled with His love and the knowing of His presence dwelling in me by His Holy Spirit. I want to be “devoured” by the One who loves me so immensely that even through eternity I will never fully comprehend Love’s depths. I want to get lost in Christ so fully that I think nothing of myself and all of Him and what is on His mind and feeling what is on His heart. “More of Him, less of me” (John 3:30).

Father God, however possible this is on this side of eternity, please bring me to this place with You.

For Christ is all, and in all… and by Him and for Him and through Him all was made, and in Him all things consist and are held together. Jesus is THE Way, the ONLY Way! May He have the preeminence – it’s all about Him! Loving Him and knowing Him! (See John 14:6, Colossians 1:16-17).

Recommended Reading/Listening:

**Highly Recommended and FREE PDF Download:  Seven Longings of the Human Heart by Mike Bickle**

Psalm 42 with a good commentary such as Charles H. Spurgeon’s Treasury of David: Psalm 42
Point of Life by Misty Edwards (highly recommended! Click “MP3” on the page to download message)
The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence (read FREE online here)
Passion for Jesus by Mike Bickle (along with Song of Songs in the Bible is great!)
What Is the Point? by Misty Edwards