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Go Deep Right Where You Are: Come Matter Here (Book Review)

Come Matter Here by Hannah Brencher brings us an important message: “Be where your feet are.” Stay, go deep with others and make a difference where you are.

We often tend toward spending our lives waiting for the next big thing, that call to a certain place or event in our lives. So few stay put and make a difference right where they are.

We can’t all go to the big ministry organization or other countries, and that’s okay because the place is not the point. Some of us have to stay and reach those around us right here, to build God’s Kingdom right where we are. Whether a small town or the big city, a tiny church or just our family, these people matter just as much. Continue reading

Divine Connections: The Need for Godly Friendships

We were made to connect deeply with Jesus and each other, to stir up each others’ hearts in the calling and destiny of God on our lives, yet so often we are far too busy to spend that quality time with God and one another. Those times are too few and far between. Heaven would agree:

“Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

I need this right now, and I know many others do as well. The Lord has given us Himself as our closest Companion, and He has also brought others into our lives that we know are connections divinely set into place by Him.

“As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)

Father God, help us to use our time, energy, and other resources wisely. Orchestrate our schedules so that the time and energy we have can be spent in the right way. Help us to use that time and energy to engage in deep, godly friendships with quality time spent with both You and those individuals You have divinely placed in our lives. We need each other, and we need You. In Jesus’ name.

“And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works,
not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some,
but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.”
(Hebrews 10:24-25)

We were not made so much to do, we were made to be and to connect deeply in intimacy with God and with others.

In all relationships, we must not go about things for the sake of our own benefit. Instead our aim is to be like Christ, seeking to be a help and encouragement rather than a hindrance or burden. We want to help bear one another’s burdens and spur each other on to live like Jesus (Galatians 6:2). As we sow the fruit of the Holy Spirit into our friendships, we will reap them also (Galatians 6:7-10).

Since we have such a need for deep, genuine friendship, we must prioritize these areas of our lives. As we sharpen one another in the Lord, we encourage each other to remain faithful and steadfast through good times and bad. We remind each other of who we are in Christ, and we help propel one another into our God-given destinies.

May we set our hearts to live out our friendships on earth as they will be in Heaven.

“…walk worthy of the calling with which you were called,
with all lowliness and gentleness,
with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,
endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
(Ephesians 4:1-3)

Further Reading Online
Being the Friend You’ve Always Wanted (Believe.com)

Holy Addiction

If there is one major lesson I have learned in life, it is that God is the only One who can truly satisfy the desires, needs & longings we have.

Before truly encountering the Lord in my life, I tried to find love & fulfillment in people and in my gifts, but it proved only to pile depression & anxiety on top of the lack of love I felt. Like many of you, I discovered that all other endeavors, addictions & wants lead only to empty fillings & even pain.

Though they may seem to meet our needs for a time, eventually other people and things show themselves as unable to fully meet those deep needs inside our souls.

They are broken cisterns, unable to hold any substance that could ever fulfill us (Jeremiah 2:13). But know that the Lord Himself can truly satisfy & He wants to fill us, no matter how much we’ve failed in the past or present.

Father God wants to bring joy, delight & fulfillment into our lives. He wants to replace our striving to be satisfied elsewhere with a holy addiction to Himself & His presence. He will fulfill you like no one & nothing else can.

But don’t just take my words & read them, go spend some time alone with Him & taste for yourself the pleasures of the love of Jesus. This is one intoxication you will never regret and you can always fearlessly ask for more.

Isaiah 58:11 NASB: “…the LORD will continually guide you, & satisfy your desire in scorched places, & give strength to your bones; & you will be like a watered garden, & like a spring of water whose waters do not fail.”

Not Quiet, Loud

I read an interesting blog post the other day about how quiet time shouldn’t necessarily be “quiet.” In fact, he states that quiet time should probably be called “noisy time.” One particular quote that stood out to me:

…the standard practice for both public and private prayer is to speak so as to be heard by the Person with whom you are talking. Prayer is verbal because it is relational. I’ve known many people whose relationship with God was significantly transformed as they started to speak up with their Father.

I am personally too hard on myself about spending ample quiet time with God, & I often berate myself for not meeting my own standards at times. Then again, my standards have recently shown to be a little wacky! Quiet time isn’t only time spent deeply focused in God’s Word (which is what makes it meet my now changing standards)! That is definitely important, but isn’t the essence of time spent with God. Renewing our minds in God’s Word is absolutely essential, but there are also other “God time” things that are necessary to a truly intimate, two-way relationship with God.

Though essential, it can’t just be reading or Bible study. It’s about daily communication with God. It isn’t called relationship just to have a special word for it. It’s a relationship — just like one’s relationship with their spouse, parents, children & friends. Is every moment we spend with other human beings quiet? Do we talk to them about what’s going on in our lives, & also listen to what they have to say or show in response? That definitely isn’t 100% quiet. We have to speak up!

Often the focus when talking about “God time” is spent on our need to listen more, & this is so incredibly true. But I have a feeling there are others out there who don’t see God as someone we can be intimately upfront & honest with no matter what.

Our God wants to hear from us. He wants to know when we’re hurting, rejoicing, or just plain bored. He wants to know our dreams so that He can exceed our imaginations in making them come true. He wants us to call on Him when we’re confused so that He can shed new light on His truth. He wants to respond to our prayers by birthing in us feelings of greater faith, hope & encouragement. Our God wants us most of all to come to Him. He wants to show us the way to Himself. Whether we know it or not, we’re indescribably hungry & thirsty for Him, & He wants to fill us like no one or nothing else can!