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Do Gossip and Negative Speech Grieve Our Hearts Like They Should?

Recently I was talking with someone and they begin to speak negatively about someone we knew. It grieved me and stirred my heart to pray for the person saying these things.

Both the speaker and the person spoken about are made in God’s image. Both are loved by Him—whether they know Jesus or not. Because of this, I want to know the heart of Father God for them because this is what my heart should reflect:

  1. God made them and saw that it was good.
  2. God sent His Son for them as well as you and me, providing a way for restoration and forgiveness of sin.
  3. God wants to do a transformational work in their lives too.

We have all sinned and needed Jesus to redeem us. This is no time to compare failures and sins. All need Christ every day to grow in holiness, and He calls us to love, share truth and pray.

At some point, every one of us has done someone wrong–whether against God, ourselves or others. It could have been by mistake or done by choice, yet consequences still come. Everyone has areas that need transformation. None of us is capable of true good without God’s inspiration and enablement.

When confronted with negative speech, I try to get God’s heart on the manner. What could have led to the person’s hurtful behavior. And I aim to avoid harboring offense, anger and unforgiveness.

Hurtful situations, hardship in their life or lack of self-worth may have led them to speak this way. They might simply be anxious, depressed, insecure or hopeless. They could be starved for genuine help, support and affection. Maybe they simply had a bad day or week. The possible scenarios are endless.

Sin and ugliness of any kind are never excused (even by having a bad day). Regardless, when someone wrongs us it can be a sign that they need love, kindness and prayer. You may be the only one praying for them besides Christ Himself.

We can take part in God’s work in someone’s life. We can join our prayers with His, seeking to love and be kind even if they’ve done wrong.

Negative speech about others should grieve our hearts as it would God’s, whether we hear or speak it. Gossip and slander are not necessary. This type of behavior is sin. It does not align with the heart of Jesus. Instead it shows where we lack His love for ourselves and others.

An important aside: This also includes our unkind actions and reactions as well.

Before we respond to such situations, we could pray through the following:

  • Have I have ever spoken in a way that does not reflect the heart of Father God?
  • When I or others have done this, how does it make me feel? Am I grieved when I or others do this?
  • Because they also need Christ, will I choose to show love and forgive them? Will I ask God to help me see them through His perspective?
  • Will I decide to pray that they will come to know the One who meets every need gives us true worth and identity?
  • Will I pray for God to heal every hurt, giving them a desire to let Him transform their hearts?

Like me, does it grieve you when someone speaks hurtful things about another person? Perhaps this is nothing new to you or was a good reminder. Know a friend who needs this message? Don’t forget to share it!

Did I miss anything? Do you have something to add? I’d love for you to leave a comment.

I pray this article sparks a revolution in our hearts to respond as Jesus would!

Vessels of the Father’s Love

Father God has given us each a free will. He has given us a beautiful choice to show love and honor to Him and others. Most often, we think we do this pretty well. Nonetheless, our hearts still contain impurities revealing self-focus and unhealed wounds.

Learned behaviors we thought were normal affect our daily lives. Ingrained habits plague us. We raise our voices at our children or siblings. We avoid those who rub us wrong. Or perhaps we find ourselves doing things to fulfill the need to be useful, or we assert ourselves wrongly to feel in control. Maybe we busy ourselves to avoid painful emotions.

Even in the many struggles we have, Father God is working to refine us into vessels of His love as we yield to Him.

We want to be ones who seek the heart of God, showing selfless love to all who we come near. Jesus confirmed this call. When asked about the most weighty of the Commandments, He said that loving God with all and loving others are the two from which all others stem (Matthew 22:36-40).

We realize our attempts to love remain tainted with self-serving. Showing love and honor is not automatic. Because of our tendencies toward selfishness and sin, we must seek to be intentional. We must be mindful of those around us.

If we ask, Father God will reveal ingrained behaviors and help us replace them with the fruits of the Holy Spirit. We must seek to be a blessing in every situation. It will take allowing Him to show us the depths of our souls.
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Let the Flowers Grow: Emptying Ourselves of All That Hinders Love

Last night at our small group, I felt like God brought a great metaphor to us that I thought was worth sharing here.

We felt that God was speaking about our needing to truly empty ourselves of all things that hinder our relationship with Him to make room for all that He wants to fill us with.

We need to empty the inside of us of all burdens of worry, unbelief, sin or other things that hinder us from truly blossoming in our relationship with God. We need to clean ourselves out so that God has an empty vessel ready to be filled.

The metaphor was this: We need to empty out our “basements” full of junk that we are hoarding or holding onto, and allow God to turn us into beautiful gardens blooming with flowers of all kinds in every season.

He wants to fill us with the fragrant aromas of all He has to pour into us, that will may then blossom in & through Him! In essence, He wants to renew our minds (Romans 12:1-2), filling us with His Word, His Truth to bring us life as His children.

Lay all burdens & other hindrances to your being closer to God at His feet, & refuse take them back up again (as we often try to do)! Then let God renew your mind through His Truth, letting yourself blossom as He grows a garden of His love, truth, grace & peace in your heart & renews your mind with His Word!

He wants to take every burden you have (1 Peter 5:7) & have you just rest in Him (Psalm 46:10), growing you closer to Him & living in His Truth. Let the garden of your heart blossom! Let the flowers grow!

More encouragement from God’s Word:

“Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy & peace in believing, that you may abound in hope, in the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13